Avoiding False Date Rape Charges In Taiwan

I decided to skip my order of business and go to a really important issue for foreign guys in Taiwan. The following is not meant to be a replacement for legal council.

A friend of mine down south got into some big shit that almost cost him his freedom. To make a long story short, he went out with this girl, they started holding hands, so he tried to put his arm around her waist, which she allowed smiling. Later on when it got down to the kiss, she said no two times is a coy manner, but on the 3rd time she let him. In fact, she went straight to tongue outright crazy kiss on him.
This escalated to breast touching, which she allowed, and finally breast kissing ( they were in a secluded area), which she allowed once and said, we’d better stop, to which my friend obliged, saying “sorry i went too far”. they then went out to dinner, holding hands , laughing, etc.

That night, my friend emailed her asking ” how’s your dog, etc” to which she replied, running down the list of everything they did that afternoon, how she felt guilty, how my friend forced her, etc.

My friend stupidly answer her email, explaining that she had LET him do that. her response was that if he didn’t own up to what he did she would go to the police.
He didn’t and she DID!

Hell hath no fury like a woman when she’s mad, or like a bitch on a guilt trip!
Many Taiwanese women are NOT together sexually! They ask many questions to themselves like “my family thinks dating foreigners is bad, am I bad” or ” I can’t have sexual desires, that’s wrong” etc, and so come to the conclusion that they must have been RAPED as the only way to save their face and self image.

You my friend, CANNOT be a victim to this! False date rape charges in Taiwan will NOT go away! It’s the gift that keeps on giving, many months after the fact. The very notices the postman delivers in regards to this can RUIN your life, or marriage, if you we cheating.
There will also be a DNA test done, maybe a month after you get called in for questioning. And just because the cops didn’t call you THAT NIGHT or show up at your door doesn’t mean that she didn’t file a report on you!!!!Taiwan cops are lazy! But when the time comes around to investigate, they WILL do it.

I am going to run down the list, showing you how my friend messed up from the BEGINNING, and how he could have avoided this for the most part.

Let me say first off the bat that he found the way to protect yourself from false date rape is to think like a RAPIST! Sounds sick but true.Plan your date like you would plan a crime and you will be covering more of your bases instead of hanging in the wind!

Be warned!!! If you ARE planning to rape somebody, I’m NOT trying to help you, you piece of shit! I hope you get caught, you WILL get caught, AND (hopefully) raped repeatedly in jail!!

With that said, here goes:

1. Pick a different chick- learn how to gauge women on an “uprightness scale”. if you think she might do what i described above proceed with caution

2a. No means no. No also could be a test to see if you will take no for an answer. No basically means whatever she thinks it means, hence the confusion. Here’s how to get past the stalemate without getting in trouble: If a Taiwan girl takes you all the way to some secluded spot but the kiss is a no-go, just say ” Maybe I’d better leave” or something like that. Let her know you are angry, but don’t over do it. She will probably say, “Wait”,and will go farther, knowing that this time if she refuses you WILL walk away. It works!!!

2b. Pay attention to 2a! It could mean the difference in her KNOWING that she chose to go ahead and not knowing, and your ass in jail!!!

3. Never use your whole first name with a girl you don’t know! Most Taiwan girls never ask your last name anyway (a serious safety mistake i think). If your name is William, use Bill. If it’s Kenneth, use Ken. Or use your middle name if you think it’s just a one time thing. If it’s just some cunt on “oh me so horny. com.tw” or some barfly that you just want to ONS with, who cares anyway? Protect yourself!

4a. NEVER use hotmail!! Do NOT have an email with your name on it , ie ” bill- i’m stupid ” @ hotmail. idiot. Same for MSN!! Get a free hushmail.com account
and do not use your name on the address! Use something unconnected to yourself and also, NEVER sign your name to your emails with anything but the short name I told you about above. If Taiwan police try to trace your email, they will run into firewalls. Also your location is better protected.

However, if you have a paid account, that can be traced to you with a court order to Canada. Use the free account. No names required. Also, make sure ALL correspondence with her is not from your house. Wear a hat to an internet cafe, and don’t look up at the cameras!!! (see 6).

4b. Read this article: http://www.frankahearn.com/avoidonlinetracking.html

5. Use a prepaid, UNTRACEABLE cellphone (not a Taiwan number)! The new ones bounce between 4 satellite links and are near impossible to locate. If you are an ex-pat just traveling in Taiwan, you need one anyway. Find one which one gives you 30 minutes incoming free, anywhere in the world.

6. Wear a hat!! Do not look up at/for cameras. This is especially important should this tryst take you to a hotel. Look down in the elevator.

7. Have sex in the shower! In any case, make sure the two of you take a shower together after sex.It’s romantic and washes DNA. Look around the bed for hair fibers (yours) while she is using the toilet. Pick up EVERY ONE that you can find and put them in your pocket, not the GARBAGE CAN! Also, wrap the condom in toilet paper and FLUSH IT DOWN THE TOILET!!!!

8. Do NOT email her the same day asking her how it was or any details about what you two did, or even that you KNOW her. Do not email her til she emails you. Wait a few days, and if she doesn’t write first, you write to say hi.
If she sends you an email claiming you raped her, do not answer! Don’t cancel the account- just don’t answer! If the cops send you an email, tell them they have the wrong address. If by chance they find a Taiwan number to reach you and ask you if that’s your email, say no!

To tell the truth, these are things anyone in this day and age should be doing. Protect yourself!!!
And girls, be safe too! Stay away from creeps, but be honest with yourself about sex.
You’re only human.

PS: In case some of you are thinking my friend is just a horn-dog, she called him back a month later, asking for sex! Go figure.

PPS: They signed an “agreement of misunderstanding” and the DA dropped the case on lack of evidence. It could have gone all the way to trial even though she recanted. The main help for my friend was the agreement. the main evidence against him was ……

the emails!

About the Author

Ran the Man is a musician,martial artist, language teacher, and defrocked renegade missionary (really). He has spoken Mandarin for over 20 years and been in Taiwan for over 10. He can be found occasionally in some God-forsaken dives in central Taiwan, where he drinks Coke and rum. See more of Ran's musings at his blog - The Truth About Taiwan

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