Avoiding False Date Rape Charges In Taiwan

I decided to skip my order of business and go to a really important issue for foreign guys in Taiwan. The following is not meant to be a replacement for legal council.

A friend of mine down south got into some big shit that almost cost him his freedom. To make a long story short, he went out with this girl, they started holding hands, so he tried to put his arm around her waist, which she allowed smiling. Later on when it got down to the kiss, she said no two times is a coy manner, but on the 3rd time she let him. In fact, she went straight to tongue outright crazy kiss on him.
This escalated to breast touching, which she allowed, and finally breast kissing ( they were in a secluded area), which she allowed once and said, we’d better stop, to which my friend obliged, saying “sorry i went too far”. they then went out to dinner, holding hands , laughing, etc.

That night, my friend emailed her asking ” how’s your dog, etc” to which she replied, running down the list of everything they did that afternoon, how she felt guilty, how my friend forced her, etc.

My friend stupidly answer her email, explaining that she had LET him do that. her response was that if he didn’t own up to what he did she would go to the police.
He didn’t and she DID!

Hell hath no fury like a woman when she’s mad, or like a bitch on a guilt trip!
Many Taiwanese women are NOT together sexually! They ask many questions to themselves like “my family thinks dating foreigners is bad, am I bad” or ” I can’t have sexual desires, that’s wrong” etc, and so come to the conclusion that they must have been RAPED as the only way to save their face and self image.

You my friend, CANNOT be a victim to this! False date rape charges in Taiwan will NOT go away! It’s the gift that keeps on giving, many months after the fact. The very notices the postman delivers in regards to this can RUIN your life, or marriage, if you we cheating.
There will also be a DNA test done, maybe a month after you get called in for questioning. And just because the cops didn’t call you THAT NIGHT or show up at your door doesn’t mean that she didn’t file a report on you!!!!Taiwan cops are lazy! But when the time comes around to investigate, they WILL do it.

I am going to run down the list, showing you how my friend messed up from the BEGINNING, and how he could have avoided this for the most part.

Let me say first off the bat that he found the way to protect yourself from false date rape is to think like a RAPIST! Sounds sick but true.Plan your date like you would plan a crime and you will be covering more of your bases instead of hanging in the wind!

Be warned!!! If you ARE planning to rape somebody, I’m NOT trying to help you, you piece of shit! I hope you get caught, you WILL get caught, AND (hopefully) raped repeatedly in jail!!

With that said, here goes:

1. Pick a different chick- learn how to gauge women on an “uprightness scale”. if you think she might do what i described above proceed with caution

2a. No means no. No also could be a test to see if you will take no for an answer. No basically means whatever she thinks it means, hence the confusion. Here’s how to get past the stalemate without getting in trouble: If a Taiwan girl takes you all the way to some secluded spot but the kiss is a no-go, just say ” Maybe I’d better leave” or something like that. Let her know you are angry, but don’t over do it. She will probably say, “Wait”,and will go farther, knowing that this time if she refuses you WILL walk away. It works!!!

2b. Pay attention to 2a! It could mean the difference in her KNOWING that she chose to go ahead and not knowing, and your ass in jail!!!

3. Never use your whole first name with a girl you don’t know! Most Taiwan girls never ask your last name anyway (a serious safety mistake i think). If your name is William, use Bill. If it’s Kenneth, use Ken. Or use your middle name if you think it’s just a one time thing. If it’s just some cunt on “oh me so horny. com.tw” or some barfly that you just want to ONS with, who cares anyway? Protect yourself!

4a. NEVER use hotmail!! Do NOT have an email with your name on it , ie ” bill- i’m stupid ” @ hotmail. idiot. Same for MSN!! Get a free hushmail.com account
and do not use your name on the address! Use something unconnected to yourself and also, NEVER sign your name to your emails with anything but the short name I told you about above. If Taiwan police try to trace your email, they will run into firewalls. Also your location is better protected.

However, if you have a paid account, that can be traced to you with a court order to Canada. Use the free account. No names required. Also, make sure ALL correspondence with her is not from your house. Wear a hat to an internet cafe, and don’t look up at the cameras!!! (see 6).

4b. Read this article: http://www.frankahearn.com/avoidonlinetracking.html

5. Use a prepaid, UNTRACEABLE cellphone (not a Taiwan number)! The new ones bounce between 4 satellite links and are near impossible to locate. If you are an ex-pat just traveling in Taiwan, you need one anyway. Find one which one gives you 30 minutes incoming free, anywhere in the world.

6. Wear a hat!! Do not look up at/for cameras. This is especially important should this tryst take you to a hotel. Look down in the elevator.

7. Have sex in the shower! In any case, make sure the two of you take a shower together after sex.It’s romantic and washes DNA. Look around the bed for hair fibers (yours) while she is using the toilet. Pick up EVERY ONE that you can find and put them in your pocket, not the GARBAGE CAN! Also, wrap the condom in toilet paper and FLUSH IT DOWN THE TOILET!!!!

8. Do NOT email her the same day asking her how it was or any details about what you two did, or even that you KNOW her. Do not email her til she emails you. Wait a few days, and if she doesn’t write first, you write to say hi.
If she sends you an email claiming you raped her, do not answer! Don’t cancel the account- just don’t answer! If the cops send you an email, tell them they have the wrong address. If by chance they find a Taiwan number to reach you and ask you if that’s your email, say no!

To tell the truth, these are things anyone in this day and age should be doing. Protect yourself!!!
And girls, be safe too! Stay away from creeps, but be honest with yourself about sex.
You’re only human.

PS: In case some of you are thinking my friend is just a horn-dog, she called him back a month later, asking for sex! Go figure.

PPS: They signed an “agreement of misunderstanding” and the DA dropped the case on lack of evidence. It could have gone all the way to trial even though she recanted. The main help for my friend was the agreement. the main evidence against him was ……

the emails!

About the Author

Ran the Man is a musician,martial artist, language teacher, and defrocked renegade missionary (really). He has spoken Mandarin for over 20 years and been in Taiwan for over 10. He can be found occasionally in some God-forsaken dives in central Taiwan, where he drinks Coke and rum. See more of Ran's musings at his blog - The Truth About Taiwan

29 Responses to “ Avoiding False Date Rape Charges In Taiwan ”

  1. So … by this advice, is your game plan to deny you even had sex should such charges arrise? Lying to police is tricky business in itself. And if you’ve already bought a hotel room – what did you do? sit up there?

    Further, most of the time condoms are not used in rapes. So flushing the protection evidence doesn’t sound like a good idea to me.

    Don’t trust a free email account for anonymity, with i.p. addresses and what not, we’re pretty advanced in how far the digital footprint can be traced.

    I do agree that you don’t want to put anything incriminating in writing. Your friend should’ve called the girl instead.

  2. So … by this advice, is your game plan to deny you even had sex should such charges arrise? Lying to police is tricky business in itself. And if you’ve already bought a hotel room – what did you do? sit up there?

    Further, most of the time condoms are not used in rapes. So flushing the protection evidence doesn’t sound like a good idea to me.

    Don’t trust a free email account for anonymity, with i.p. addresses and what not, we’re pretty advanced in how far the digital footprint can be traced.

    I do agree that you don’t want to put anything incriminating in writing. Your friend should’ve called the girl instead.
    OH! You’re my new favorite blogger fyi

  3. Reading this I don’t know who is exhibiting the more “psycho” behaviour. The young lady making accusations or the gentleman suggesting such extreme behaviour to “avoid detection”.

  4. Good point. Most people will be in the middle somewhere. There are many cases of foreign guys in Taiwan though that spend 100% of their time out of work trying to get laid. I think this applies more to them.

  5. thanks for all your comments!

    the fact that you need to protect yourself in this age means the SOCIETY we live in is crazy. there are many examples of people who have gone thru this.

    we have to play fair. when a girl says no, walk away. if she invites you back, test the water a little, if she still tells you no, then it’s time to go home.

    yes getting laid is a human priority. besides eating and self defense, it’s one of the most basic. this article is about SELF DEFENSE in the cyber age and the age of femenism gone berserk!

  6. in short, get your lays the fair way (by consent). but protect yourself from those who chose play the game, then have regrets and try to blame it all on you.

  7. “femenism” has not gone berserk. False reporting and women’s rights have nothing to do with each other.

  8. I suppose if you have had an issue with false reporting perhaps you might feel feminism has gone berserk. I agree that they shouldn’t have anything to do with each other though. It always seems a few bad apples spoil the bunch.

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  10. I think you would be correct to think those select women have gone berserk. But to say feminism has gone beserk is to suggest feminism somehow supports or condones the actions of those women, which it obviously doesn’t.

  11. forget my previous comments. i’m calmed down now so print this one:

    AS AN ARDENT ANTI FEMENIST I RESERVE THE RIGHT TO MAKE GENERALIZATIONS ABOUT THEM.

    thank you

  12. Interesting ran the man,if not rather paranoid in content.I suppose I’ve been fortunate(so far)in Taiwan and have not found myself in that particular situation.Sorry,but I have to say that your friend seems like an inexperienced moron.Clearly the girl wanted to feel respectable and he should have seen that and followed up with the response..”I’m sorry,but I just couldn’t resist you.You’re so beautiful.I hope you can understand how I feel.”..End of story..It’s a good effort on your part and if anyone really feels the need to follow your security procedures than maybe they should.Personally I’ll rely on common sense,experience and instinct to sustain me.

  13. yes, common sense is the best thing. i think he should have just picked another chick to be with. he should have called her and tried to make her feel she wasn’ a slut. she wasn’t a slut, she was just a human with human needs. no shame there. and he should have let her know that.
    all’s well that ends well.

  14. by the way, it’s not so much femenism as WEAK FEMENISM that i detest. the idea that you can “cherry pick” things from traditional society, ie “yes i can have a career but you have to be ready to support me when i want to quit my job because i’m a woman” etc.

    i’m tired of these women who do it half way. if you want to be a strong independent woman fine. i don’t feel intimidated at all by female dentists, doctors, lawyers, pilots, judges. they have achieved excellence.
    it’s these bitches that do things HALF WAY that are the trouble! you wanna be weak? then shut up an let me take care of you.
    you wanna be a carrer woman and a good earner? then fine! don’t ask me to make as much as you! don’t ask me to provide as much for you. don’t pit me against your earning power and say i “just don’t want to improve” etc.
    I have nothing against truly capable women. i’m just tired of 19th century crap being thrown in my face by 21st century women whenever they just feel like it!
    like my grandma says : “pee or get off the pot!”
    make up your mind. be one or be the other. you can’t be a weak ass bitch when you just feel like it and ESPECIALLY just to save face!

  15. ‘Use a prepaid, UNTRACEABLE cellphone (not a Taiwan number)! The new ones bounce between 4 satellite links and are near impossible to locate. ‘

    Would you please expand on that a bit?

    Do you have a brand name, such as Nokia, that you can recommend?

  16. dear da,
    i am looking for the link for those cellphones now. by the way, i would also like to add that you should CALL THE GIRL FROM A PAYPHONE til you know her well enough.
    some of these girls have BOYFRIENDS that they’re not telling you about (actually MANY of them do). and some of those boyfriends (with the country girls at least) are bad guys. never let one of these people know your number or see your number coming in on her phone.
    of course he can trace you from HER calls to your number.or from your number being in her phone list. but the less you call her from YOUR phone, the better.
    this is especially important if you just met her and have a date that night.

  17. for those of you asking”why are you writing this kind of stuff” my answer is simple:
    i stopped being so morally serious a long time ago. taiwan is not going to change anytime on my watch. you, as a westerner are a second class citizen no matter what they tell you. you’re an english teaching machine. they think you and I are for fun. we’re the foriegn flavor.you’re just the foriegn help. you are not to be taken seriously by this society no matter how much you have to offer.

    to that end, what will you get out of taiwan but some friends, some good memeories, and a little nookie? and seeing that there is such an ABUNDANT supply of the latter, i hate to waste.
    if YOU don’t, then somebody else will.

  18. the deck is stacked against you. might as well play your strong card for all it’s worth. just don’t be a shallow, spineless foriegner who acts stupid on those Tv shows.

  19. this society is leeching your diginty and financial future. might as well get what you can back. tons of girlfriends is a fair consolation for the racist crap we put up with here.

  20. ran….I hear you and what’s more I tend to agree with a lot of your personal viewpoint as well as your Taiwan facts,but tell me ran,where do you originally come from?And understand that I’m not trying to breach our “incognito” status here.So do you have access to my email information?If not then tell the moderator that I give you permission to have it.Ok..R.

  21. moderator,
    send me robert’s email.

  22. by the way, i would like to add that i LOVE working for women! i have had a few GREAT lady supervisors and bosses in my time!
    i like a lady who is strong, understands people, and treats them fairly.
    just a straight up., all around kind of lady that isn’t ready to sue you for saying her dress looks nice.
    that kind of lady is really great to work for.

  23. Robert,
    i’m sorry i haven’t gotten back to you. send me your email again. i accidently erased it!
    ran

  24. I randomly browsed your article. I like your analysis of taiwanese women’s psychology.
    I think the girl accused of him because she wanted your friend to take on the responsibility (sex—->responsibility).
    I am a girl, but some girls really have that kind of mind-sets that they can force a man into a relationship by accusing him. That can be true. However, being too crafty might also make people too much on guard, incapapble of finding the person in front of you being like.

    Sorry for my poor English. I am a Taiwanese.

  25. So you tell me to:

    + wear a hat
    + have sex in the shower
    + don’t use my real name
    + use a prepaid, UNTRACEABLE cellphone

    Sounds like a lot of work to have sex. If you are not sure about the girl – don’t do it. Else find a foreign chick – they are always up for it.

    If you want anonymous sex – use a prostitute. If you live in Kaohsiung, you can bang a whore from $1800 – seems like a safer, anonymous bet – as you pay them to leave.

  26. More tips:
    *When you are talking to her, don’t mention anything personal that she might use to trace you down.
    *When carousing, looking for company, do not go with friends which she might use to trace you down.
    *After said encounter, do not return to the place where you met her.
    *After said encounter, do not return to any place she or her friends might find you.
    *After said encounter, stay indoors or leave the country.

  27. thank you all for writing. sorry i’ve been away for awhile.
    i think it’s a serious problem as one femal reader said- women wanting the man to take full responsiblity for wat 2 people did.

  28. The only good advice here is “no means no”. The rest is self-serving crap. If you are dating a lady but you are unsure of the cultural differences then show her that you understand no means no, and next time she will say no if she means it, and something else if she wants to proceed. No means no boys…this is not Toys R Us!

  29. correct, which is why i said, no means no.

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